Life has those special moments of bright colors that emanate from the horizon. That is why I love the fall and the possibility of new opportunities. And how we can get those unexpected surprises when you are not actually looking for them. For bright colors do not always last forever. They sometimes fade after a strong Maine sunset over the coast. Or how those brilliant fall colors come strong on the trees and then fall off and fade into the ground as nurturing soil.
The same can apply to how we impact one other in our relationships.
Special relationships can be eternal-those moments where we call out to one another. Calling out from within the crowd, Bianca brought me into bring me into her circle while I was on the Bellarmine lawn during freshmen orientation at Fairfield University in 1983.
Even though we did not stay in touch often during our college years, it is an ember that sits quietly and patiently in the coals of our lives and gets reignited during our lifetimes.
And relationships spread across time and place and get rekindled by a sweet note or postcard sent from across the world. And it has continued on for the last 30 years.
Bianca has a good hearty and infectious laugh that can punctuate the silence. I enjoy being around her during these special times. Her handwriting is big and flows from her hands like the flowers of a petal.
During one of the reunions at Fairfield University, Bianca shared with some of her friends how her dad came out and rescued her from a relationship that was not going too well and being protective of her.
It was during this time that she was called home after her father died. I was heading home from work and brought home the newspaper and opened up the obituary section at my kitchen table and saw that her dad passed on. I was shocked since he seemed so strong.
Often her family had special parties in her palatial backyard with a pool at it. Music played in the background. Another evening, we had a special get together planned at an area restaurant but we headed to her house to pick up something. Bianca invited me out to her backyard for a moment, and about 15 of her family and friends were there to offer me a surprise greeting for my 39th birthday. Her family had a nice outdoor bar where we shared some sodas and drinks in the outside cool breeze with her established family. I received a nice crystal eagle wrapped in tissue paper and I have it displayed on my television console. And I am currently known as Eagle from another good friend of mine.
Spreading through time, I have had some special times with Bianca as we traveled throughout Fairfield for several great lunches. Once it felt real special as I got my hair just right and wore my Fairfield University sweatshirt. And I had a a beaming smile on my face. The office knew I was in a good mood for it felt good to catch up with my best friend, Bianca.
And during the third of one of these gatherings at noon, she failed to show up but that Friday afternoon, a nice bouquet of cut fall flowers arrived at my office!!
I was the talk of the office since men often did not get flowers. And they wanted to know who my special admirer was. That was prior to a thanksgiving holiday. I kept my flowers on my living room coffee table and kept them watered. The flowers had a special aroma. Often they asked, "Scott, is this the one?" but I responded back, "No, grace has flowed into Bianca's life with a friend from across the pond!"
A couple of months later during a winter afternoon with the snow freshly on the ground, we headed out to a lunch and Bianca shared great news that she was engaged and going to get married. I was very happy for her, For she found her friend from another friend. Phil lived in England and they hit it off well. And the special thing about Phil was that he lost his wife a while back and complemented Bianca's loss of her dad.
And during one of our special lunches, we took an extended time after a quick bite at Boston Market and got my glasses at Pearle Vision Center. Then I picked them up on a Saturday when Bianca got married for their U.S. wedding in her backyard.
And while he was briefly in the states to be introduced to Bianca's mom, on one of Bianca's first dates I was included as we went to the movies. Not a particularly great movie but just a great time to be together as friends.
And I got to be on her radio show as she interviewed me on how I overcame my struggles and was her bright spot. This occurred a few weeks before halloween when I was interviewed from my home.
Often we exchange emails and I share special inspirational writings and emails. Bianca has encouraged me to write a book for I am a brilliant writer for I am great at it.
When my dad died, the first person in the world that I shared the news was with Bianca for I knew she would understand.
See, for the fall season brings many great blessings from the time that we met, to the time I received her flowers to the time of being on her radio program.
And I am reminded of how I need to extend and reach out from my soul to bless other people and let the moments flow.
And music flows from these times and they can be magical when we are present.
And to witness how people can be resilient with some of the struggles that they face.
And I need to find and create those moments for others to enjoy and not be cognizant of a time frame but to see it as a long horizon that changes over time in the strength of its color and beauty.
Just as I have found with my special friendship with Bianca and her family.